I didn't choose this work. I was initiated into it.

For years I lived a double life as a sex worker, and I was very good at keeping my two worlds apart. Then someone I knew made sure I couldn't. I was doxxed, and the thing I'd spent years protecting myself from happened publicly and all at once.

It was the worst thing that could have happened, and the most clarifying. Whatever you fear most is usually standing directly between you and everything you want. Once there was nothing left to hide, I had to look at why I'd been hiding in the first place. That question became my career.

Those years also gave me an education no textbook could. I sat with men in the moments they stopped performing, and I saw what they carried and never said out loud. So when I trained as a sexologist, I wasn't learning theory. I was finding language for what I'd already lived.

I don't hide any of it, and that's the point. My own self-disclosure is what earns men's trust. When I'm honest about my life, they stop editing theirs, and that's where the real work starts.

Beyond my practice, I'm also a podcast host, writer, speaker, erotic anthropologist, on a mission to change the paradigm around sexuality.